Monday, June 04, 2007
Marriage
[The death of the love...and sparks]
Recently I have heard a disturbing news from my mum. I used to have fantasies about what a marriage should be like. You know, as I love fairytales. However, I have grown up ever since....and stopped believing in it, though I do wish occasionally that I have a happily-ever-after marriage.
But really. To hear a seemingly perfect marriage coming to an end....it is disturbing. After all, even though it is just one of the many cases I have heard...this time it is disturbing as it is very close to me....
Have you heard of a woman who tolerated her husband's betrayal and not coming home at all for the past year, and not even making noise about it?
A woman who silently washes her husband's clothes everyday without fail, despite the fact that he did not come home for the whole night, only to return home in the morning so that she can wash his clothes?
A woman who devotes all her love and care for her children and still, her husband, so she HELPED him keep mum about his not coming home and having an affair, in hope that he will love her again?
A woman who love her husband so much that she takes her husband's verbal and emotional abuse (think shouting and screaming at the wife), even though he is absent most of the time in the marriage?
A husband, who told her that he hates her, and wanted to divorce her and say to her "I don't want the children and I am not going to pay for them cos' you want it" like as if he is not the father?
AND ultimately, despite having to be his maid, taking in his verbal abuse, keeping mum about his affair by not telling his family (cos' he told her not to, if not he would hate her), neglecting his own children......how about ASKING HER TO PAY HIS CREDIT CARD BILLS that amount to thousands????
It is real. Not some drama serial. It happened in my family. And they were together for a long time before they got married, so the affair was a shock to everyone. I am not disclosing who exactly they are, but it is a shock as everyone thought their marriage is fine since....she never complained!
If not for my aunt's continuous pestering when she realized how weak and pale she was....she will probably suffer from depression.
In any case, I already hate and despise MCPs (Male Chauvinist Pigs) Those really big on I-AM-A-MAN-SO-I-CAN-ORDER-YOU-AROUND-COS-YOU-ARE-A-WOMAN kind really disgusts me.
Now, it is a combination of the three kinds of man I hate most!!! A MCP + A betrayer+Living off a woman MAN! (Ok, there are another two more kinds of guys I hate most, which are the rapists and the paedophiles)
AND I don't know whether I should slap the husband or the wife. He is seriously one of the lousiest husbands alive, and not to mention MCP to the limit (can you imagine at this day there is still a man who waits for his wife to serve him dinner if not he CANT AND REFUSE to eat???), and she still does not want him to hate her????
AND she still wants to seek reconciliation, pay off his debts, and washed his clothes, cooked for him (if he ever comes home once in a blue moon), can you imagine at this day there is a woman still like a traditional meek wife????
So it is a difficult choice. Really. Don't know to slap the wife to wake her up or kick the husband's balls.
Eww...don't know whether he has AIDS or not. But I was seriously mad when I heard it. If not for the fact that she is quite poor thing enough...I would also like to slap her. He is obviously enjoying the fact that he can bully her!!!!!!!! He is not respecting her at all. What with spending his money on the mistress and bringing the children to meet the mistress. GOSH!
UGH! So angry!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
And there is nothing to do to help her cos' she is going to be upset if anything happen to her husband. Talk about selfless love. This is overdoing it. And I thought I was too giving to my boy.
But this real life account did dampen my mood to the extent that I am having second thoughts about marriage. In this modern times, there is no such thing as marriage is forever.
So....Hai...the stupid things women do for the men that they love....enough of that.
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On brighter note, I am going to watch......................Pirates again!!!!!!!!!!!Muahahaha!!!!!!!!!!!Ya, ya, I know I have already dedicated like past two entries to it....so I am just letting you guys know, that I am a happy happy girl when I think about watching Pirates again cos' I get to see Johnny Depp again!!
That's all for now.....Ta-ta!
Joyce Kho Ming Zhen ♥
10:34 PM
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