The Lady Joyce Kho Ming Zhen
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Saturday, March 07, 2009
Gossips

[Two kinds of gossips that I hate]

What is the definition of gossips? Why do people like gossips?

I generally dislike two kinds of gossips. I mean, I am not being a saint here. I gossiped too, at times.

But usually I only gossip about people whom I am not close to, AND I would not purposely find out gossips about these people just so that I can gossip about it to my friend. AND usually our gossip do not degrade others(meaning laugh at others). Usually.

Of course, I admit, I did it before. Long time ago. Till I experienced this kind of gossip against me, I realised how hurtful it is.

So generally, I hate two kinds of gossips. One, is the kind of people that purposely go around and ask about this person, trying to act very concern, but in actual fact she/he just wants to satisfy her/his gossiping needs and tell it to her/his friends cos' she/he has nothing better to do AND cos' she/he enjoys laughing at other people's problems/misery etc.

Second, is the kind of people that gossips about her/his close friends. Those close enough to be trusted and rely on. AND not only does she/he gossip, she or he does not mean well, but just doing it cos' she/he enjoys the gossip.

A classic example. Her. His ex.

Purposely asking him questions, that did not really concern her.

Seriously, I didn't even really purposely ask around things concerning her, so why did she have to do that?

But of course, she is THE gossip that I hate. The kind like those aunties who had nothing better to do AND so asked questions and die die also must find out what happened even though they were not close to the person, and just so as to gossip with her mates lah! What else?

AND the worse part is, her intention to gossip is to degrade and laugh at me! Imagine you're hurt like mad and someone gossip about you, by laughing at you! How cool is that?

Maybe one day I might be like that, when I become a forty-going-on-fifty auntie.

The second kind that I hate, is those who are close to you, yet gossip about you, but from their tone and what they said you know they did not sound really well meaning. Just say it for the sake of saying it, just so all of them could say, "Aiyoh, why she like that?"

If it's really well-meaning, I prefer true friends who tell it in my face if they really feel there is something wrong with me, like what Faith or Qi did, rather than avoid telling me.

I know they might not want to tell me cos' they might be afraid that I will not speak to them, or angry, or hurt or etc.

For the reason on hurt, maybe I can accept. But the rest of the reasons are bullshit. If you are so nice to me, and that you are supposedly one of my close friends, whom I tell my secrets to, you should know me well enough to know that I-WILL-NOT-BE-ANGRY-WHEN-YOU-TELL-ME-WHAT-MY-PROBLEM-IS.

I am talking about those people who are close to me. Whom I told before that I won't be angry or upset over whatever bad things you have to say about me. I might be hurt, yes, but not angry. Cos' I rather you tell me than talk behind my back. And not in a very nice way.

It's not the first time she did it. But I don't really want to say who it is, cos' she is someone quite close to me.

Whatever la ok? I can't be bothered anymore.
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