The Lady Joyce Kho Ming Zhen
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BoRn On 4th AuGuSt 1985
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Sunday, December 13, 2009
A lesson I learnt about life

[ About self reflection and critising about others' shortcomings]

Nobody in this world is perfect.

Something happened that made me realised how true this is. Sometimes we love to criticise about other people's flaws without taking a good look at ourselves.

Am I that good? When I say somebody is clingy or immature or stupid etc. Am I any better?

And what gives me the right to say that about other people? Is this a mature and wise thing to do?

I am not perfect or mature and wise, but I look at great people like Mother Theresa or Gandhi or Jesus or Buddha and I realise that they embraced peoples' flaws. They do not laugh or criticise other people. They only use wise words to retaliate when people do them wrong. No adjective words used.

I learnt that words are powerful tools. It can hurt people in ways unimaginable. Words can cause war, deaths, heartbreaks, distrust, unmendable scars and tears, just like words can sooth and bring joy to life. I will never again have the belief of "say only what, no need money" or "it's only a joke what, so serious for what, can't take a joke?"

Do you see wise and mature people saying that? Only teens who are ignorant say that. I am not young anymore. I have to be a responsible person. And that includes the words I used cos' I am responsible for them. Just like I am responsible for my own actions and decisions. If words are not important then the law won't be bothered with slander charges anymore.

When I say things like brainless or childish or self-centered etc. about a person, who am I to say such things that's so judging? Who was I to judge? Even great people like Jesus and Buddha did not do that. What gives me the right to judge which results in hurting people? How will I feel when someone use such words on me or laugh at me even though it might be true as it's my flaw? I definitely will feel hurt, no matter how true it is.

I am not guilt free from this. All I am glad to say is that at least I never use such adjectives on friends and people who are close and have been kind to me. I shall watch my mouth from now on as I know how it feels to be on the receiving end.

And I have learnt from one wise friend of mine(at least compared to me) that these kind of criticisms and judging often results in gossiping. I shall not engage in bitching gossips. It's never a mature thing to do, and you will never know when it's going to come back to you.

And I have to stay away from people who do that if I really want to change as sad to say, I am an easily influenced person. Since I am not perfect, I am in no position to tell them off, judge them or to stop them cos I am no saint.

But I will abstain from it.

I am just glad I realise this cos there are people who say such critical words on other people or even to their friends in front or behind their backs and thought it's ok because they are too self-centered to realise these words hurt. They just thought they are being straightforward. At least I realise this and I will stop being so self-centered.

Nobody is perfect. And I am responsible for the words I use on other people. I must remember that.
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